i have a problem im a female 17 and my bf for nealy 3 years his 25 yeah ok there is an age gap but i love him! but he is constantly interested in other girls on fb! girls with the perfect body!like one time i found a comment on a girls photo saying “me n u would be so good together ur well fit” and writing pm to this girl saying “ur well sexy me n u shouldd hook up” he knows i know about 1! but not the other! i try to be more sexy for him and i try so hard to keep him happy! but he just seems to think i should always make the effort and him make none! we live together and yeah i do everything for him! he dont relise how much confidence i have lost! but he tells me like ur the only one 4 me! i just cant beleive him! im really confused i dnt want to loose him and i dnt want to feel like this! please could some1 give me some advise???

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   ok i totally kno wht ur going thru becuz its happening to me except tht we have lived to gether shorter time nd he always looks on line at other gurls on fave book and myspace etc and i hate it soo freaking much and im not perfectly thin either and althought im sexy and etc like u i feel that no matter wht it not good enough
   and i do everything for him from cooking to cleaning basically like his wife but were noit married and yea and he does to say i love u etc and still i dont want t o loose him but feel sumtimes tht thts wht he wants it very confusing and ui feel the same way as u and in the same situation as u r
   only advice i can say is kno tht ur with him and ur sexy and do everything and that if he cnt except tht then maybe u should leave him or better to talk to him yet just try to talk its hard and hopefully thth will work for u thats wht im doing
   good luck and write back if u need more help

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   i know it’s hard to say goodbye and i’ve been throught that. i’m 18 and wen i was 16 i had that same problem. but i found a new guy and he loves me more then ever. he doesn’t talk bad to other girls and he’s truthful. if he’s ur boyfriend he shouldn’t be saying stuff like that to other chicks it’s not fare on u.
   goodluck
   xoxo
   kate

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   He is either cheating on you or looking to. The age difference is too much at your age. It won’t work out. You should find someone your own age.

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   the age difference is what got me. does your parents know about him? & it’s obvious he is thinking about cheating …. if he hasn’t already.

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   I think he is just using you… sorry…. hope it all works out

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   First… When he was 22, he was dating a 14 year old? It is not your fault, but that is not normal for an adult to be sexually attracted to a 14 year old.
   There are some men that need to keep a woman down in order to have control and destroying her self esteem is the best way to do it. I doubt you are the problem, he wants you at home when he wants and he wants the freedom to look at and go with whoever he wants. By making you feel unattractive and lucky to be with him, he ensures that you sit at home worrying about what you are doing wrong, and not going out and doing exactly what he is. You have your whole life ahead of you, why would you settle for that crap so early on?