I am married with a yuonge lady that I love we been together now just about 2 years and we still in our twentys the problem is b4 she use to make me sexualy very happy but suddenly about 6 months she never wants to or I have tried to talk to her but nothing can you pls ladys advice?

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   i hope that doesn’t happen! just keep trying to talk to her about it, and tell her how much she means to you…make her feel special, maybe she’ll come round

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   There’s always going to be a stage where people go off sex, but that seems quite young for it to happen.
   Do you have any kids?? If yes, try helping out more around the house and give her some spare time to relax. If no, then make more of an effort and be more romantic.

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   Exactly the same thing is happening to me!!!
   Mi partner is older than me and I don’t have the same desire that I used to have, I would like to have sex with somebody else!!
   Maybe because he likes doing it on the same position, well I don’t know, but to tell you the true I really think that if I would have sex with somebody else, my desire of being with him would come back.

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   Perhaps she’s worried or stressed about something. Maybe something’s up with her family or friends or at work. Perhaps marriage hasn’t worked out the way she thought it would. Something could be troubling her. Maybe she’s tired? Talking is the most important thing. You say you’ve tried that. For now, if I were you I’d try to take on some of the chores, reduce her workload, tell her you love her and want to support her. Don’t try and have sex, just cuddle for a month. It is unlikely that she has someone else. She just may feel under pressure from you, and feeling under pressure is a bit turn off in itself.

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   you see it’s the complete opposite for me, my husband used to be very sexual and now he’s not so bothered, not because of me thank god, but coz he’s just really not that sexual…..

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   My question is, why don’t our fathers warn us about this when we are children?
   1st don’t cheat. cheating is wrong
   2nd masturbate. you did it when you were younger and it is time to start again.
   3rd stop doing things around the house/apartment. chores. If you aren’t going to get what you want then why should she?
   welcome to married life. welcome to the club
   you poor ignorant man.
   I’m am truly sorry for your loss.

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   not to scare you … but you ought to pay attention. in my case, my man was not having sex with me, and i found out he was dating someone else. learn from the hard way, even-though, our marriage survived, but our relationship is getting worse every now and then. it might be something going on, you should pay more detail attention on everyday live with your wife.

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   maybe she’s seeing someone else.You should tak to her..good luck!!!

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   maybe there are some other problems going on in her life, i know sex is a very important part of any relationship,, but sometimes if you have a lot of stress going on or unhappiness about something it can affect your sex life as well as other things.. maybe when you sit down to talk to her you should focus on other parts of her life where there might be problems. also you seemed to have focused on her making YOU sexually happy before you were married and you need to remember that it takes effort on both sides ,, so maybe you should consider if you are doing anything different from before?

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    I am reluctant to say this, but there could be something else in her life that seems more important than you.
    Love can be a bit blind. If she does not want to talk ????
    People must talk out the problems, but maybe she can’t, or won’t talk about it.
    Maybe it is not a problem for her.!!!!!!!

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    No, but they loose it after they bore the 1st little devil!!!

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    WOW… you should not have to talk her into it. sit her down and talk to her, there may be some underlying issues. Women work different than me do. They need emotional stimulation rather than visual and sexual like men do. Just talk to her. If she does not give you good reason, let her know you can not live like that and move on.