Is It Necessary To Tell Ur Wife.about The Sex U Had With Other Womens Before Marriage.?
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i am scared to tell this to my wife about all this .iam sure she will forgive me.but she will have a doubt for me in future.and not only that everytime when i will fought with her she will take this matter out. please advice what is the best.
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DO NOT TELL.As a women, i do not think it is something that pleasant.Just ask yourself,what if your wife tell you that she having sex with other guys before you…can you accept it?
See whenever I ask my boyfriend about girls he’s slept with before me… Im only looking for a fight. Your wife may be like me and a lot of other ladies who will only get jealous. If she brings it up again, just tell her now that the only thing that matters now is she is the only person you want to be with forever and that you wish you lost your virginity to her. Tell her you wish it was just you and her from the start and that you don’t think about the women from your past. My boyfriend pulled this line on me and it worked sooo good luck with it.
I WAS MARRIED FOR 33 YEARS. I CONSTANTLY THREW THEM UP TO HIM, I WAS INSECURE IN OUR RELATIONSHIP.
ONCE I THREW HIS EX-WIFE UP TO HIM AND WENT TO CHURCH HOLDING A RAG ON A BUSTED LIP OVER IT. I NEVER EXPECTED THAT….
IF YOU ARE INSECURE WITH TELLING HER,THEN DON’T.
THE RELATIONSHIP I FOUND MYSELF TO BE IN NOW, HAS CAUSED ME GREAT PAIN,ESPECIALLY SINCE AFTER HAVING MET, HE WAS STILL MAKING PHONE CALLS BEHIND MY BACK.WHEN I GOT THE BILL, I WAS SHATTERED,BUT I STOPPED MY INTERNET ACTIVITY,ETC.,ALL TO NO AVAIL. LATER,EVEN MY FAMILIES CALLING ME,ETC WAS A PROBLEM,ALL OF A SUDDEN,EVEN MY FRIENDS.
THEY SAY THAT THE ONE DOING THE WRONG IS THE ONE GUILTY OF THE ACCUSATIONS.
I THINK NOW,THAT THE PAST IS PAST & I WON’T EVER BEGIN ANOTHER RELATIONSHIP AND SHARE PERSONAL STUFF ON THAT LEVEL,BECAUSE OF INSECURITY ISSUES AND TRUST,WHETHER THEY KNOW A THING OR NOT, IT WON’T MAKE ANY DIFFERENCE,TRUST ME ON THAT.
Why didn’t you tell her before you got married? My boyfriend says you should tell her everything so you have no skeletons in your closet.
it was BEFORE you were married! Tell her a number that will make her comfortable and forget about it!
your sex life before you meet someone is none of there business unless you contracted something contagious and still have it….
what is there to forgive??
You do not need to volunteer any information. However, if she asks you questions, you need to be honest. If you lie and she finds out, she will never trust you again. You do not need to give details. Honesty is always the best policy.
Why put this burden on her? Why do you feel the need to cleanse and purge yourself at the expense of hurting her? It is never a good idea to share life’s experiences that one has had before marrying their significant other. Ignorance is bliss, and if you do that, she will never look at you quite the same again. It will take something away from your relationship that you will not be able to get back. The old saying “loose lips sinks ships” could very well describe what you are about to
do. She didn’t know you at the time, so why do you feel the need to be forgiven by her? Forgive yourself for what you did and move on. She probably knows there were other/s. If she hasn’t asked you, she doesn’t want to know.
I have never been married but i dont think its a womens right to know about anything that happened in her husbands past i mean come on she had a life before him…which means both persons had a life before each other thus not necessary to bring up anything from the past.
I think it’s unneccesary. There’s no reason to upset her with information that has absolutely no use to her. You’re married now, so whatever you did before you were married shouldn’t matter. Even if she says she won’t care, she will. Keep this to yourself.
No, it is not even a good idea. You may tell her you dated x amount of people etc. but don’t go into sex details. I have been married twice.
This exact type of discussion caused problems in our marriage. I discussed this with a social therapist once, and she said it only causes problems if you talk about previous sex partners. So in my second, very successful marriage, we agreed not to discuss intimate details of our previous relationships. Saying you dated a few people, and got were close to a few people is ok. I wouldn’t even bring up the subject. If it comes up, just say that you don’t believe this discussion would enrich our relationship.
It is your responsibility to tell your partner about your sexual history BEFORE you have sex with her, or before you marry her, whichever comes first. You don’t need to go into details (and out of tact, you really shouldn’t), but you should let her know the number of other women you’ve slept with, and especially any unprotected sex you may have had. You should both be tested for STDs before the marriage (even if you’re “100% sure” you’re clean), and share the results with each other. She has a right to know if she is being exposed to anything.
As a moral/religious/emotional issue, you need to be honest with her, and she needs to respect that honesty. Tell her what you did, and if you repent it. Reaffirm to her that these women are in your PAST – and she is your FUTURE. If she can’t cope with that and forgive you, then you aren’t meant to be together. If she brings it up in the future and tries to reproach you, remind her that you told her about it before you got married, and she still married you anyway – if it bothers her that much, she shouldn’t have married you.
I would not tell her about the past. Just tell her she is the most important woman in your life now and thats why you are marrying her. Besides it was before you knew her so why do you feel you need to tell her anyways. Its sometimes better to just leave things unsaid. Believe me its for the best.
Are you saying that you guys didn’t discuss this BEFORE you got married? Wow! I thought every couple did. Well, if she didn’t want to know beforehand, just tell her than there were ‘others’ and you just wanted her to know in order to get it off your chest.
Strange timing, though!
Your wife is probably aware that there were other women before you two got married. This is actually the kind of thing you should have talked about when things started to get serious, or before you were intimate, whichever came first.
No, it is not necessary and not appropriate. If asked, just tell her that there were some, but you are the only one that matters. Don’t go into anymore detail then that!
Tell her that she is the only one who matters unless of course she just found out that you cheated on her and she asks you about it and it has been a long long time ago…be truthful with her dont lie to her
No and yes at the same if she ask you than tell but if she did than no if you think that it would hurt your marriage.Do she know the lady why put your marriage in danger like the way i see know ask no tell is she asking you how you have sex with that would be a different story.
No nor is it necessary to tell her about the ones you had sex with AFTER you married her…….stay silent live longer!
well it my be hard but if u let it be in u all your life u well feel bad about it so have a big talk about what u to did before u got married so u can feeel more together with each other good luck!!!
tell her that ur extremely sry and go to one of those places and become a born again virgan just for her if she truly loves u she will forgive u but believe me it will be worse if u wait tell after ur married
You may but try not to give to much detail. If possible try to avoid giving any information at all. Its true what you just said they will bring it up later in any future arguments. The pass is the pass and it shouldn’t matter now.
no dont tell her what happend before the mariage is none of her buisness
Is she asking about it?? You two are married now and if she is asking then you want to be honest in your marriage right? This sounds like something that should of been addressed while you were dating. It’s too late now what choice does she have if you tell her. Unless you lied before about how many women you were with then that would have been deceitful. Be honest and tell her the truth but assure her that this was in your past and now she is the only one for you. What did she think you were a virgin before you two met…she can’t be that naive not to know there were others before her.
You should really get all of that out in the open before marriage.
do not tell her adout sex before you all got married didn’t you get that meno from the men at the square table they are a wise bunch
I don’t think you have to tell her about the sex you had before marriage. You do need to assure her you don’t have any diseases and that you were safe.
Does your wife believe you had no life prior to her?
Anyway the issue seems to be part of a bigger problem – trust.
if you get back to that time will you do it again?or you rather just bee with your wife?if you rather your wife it show that you have a troth love and that work is not important.but if you not i think you may talk to her.
If your wife is the jealous type, don’t. But, if she asks you and can take the truth, go ahead.