Question:

Okay me and my GF have been going out for like 1 year but we never had sex. It’s not like I’m a sex freak and all but I’m a little tired of kissing and hugging and all. I mean it’s a whole year of commitment and all my attention to hr. What should I do to get her to know that I want to do it?

18 Comments so far

1. Maybe This Will Help - July 6, 2009 4:38 am

   Hi dear
   i knw this must be really frustating. well you can start showing wit your actions that wot you want. coz when in dating thier are only 10% words that are used to convey ur message and 90% are non verbal actions. So you can do it by touching her more often, holding her hand and last thing by tellin her that i deeply want to have you. you can also discuss your fantasies wit her to turn her heat on. best of luck
   take care!!!

2. Maybe This Will Help - July 6, 2009 5:33 am

   Tell her. Honesty is always your best policy. If she still isn’t ready and you love her then have a party for one, and be patient with her. If you are only hanging around for the sex, then say goodbye and go get you some.

3. Maybe This Will Help - July 6, 2009 5:35 am

   Maybe you have to be clearer, and you know what? the best thing is get right to the point and you have to be carefull in case to avoid hurting her feeling… good luck:)

4. Maybe This Will Help - July 6, 2009 5:40 am

   You better tell her what you want(to reaffirm your love, etc.).
   Good luck!

5. Maybe This Will Help - July 6, 2009 6:12 am

   Try talking to her. You don’t say how old you are, if she is young you must wait until the time is right, in the meanwhile try exercising your right hand !

6. Maybe This Will Help - July 6, 2009 6:23 am

   Dont push her, maybe she wants to save herself for true commitment like marrige, and if you ask her she might be turned off due to your forwardness, so just be causious if you do ask and expect any type of reaction.

7. Maybe This Will Help - July 6, 2009 7:08 am

   If your both commited to one another & there are no plans of breaking up & u have a healthy relationship, then just ask her about it. If she not ready there must be a reason why, try to find out what it is. Maybe shes just scared. Talking solves alot of unanswered questions.

8. Maybe This Will Help - July 6, 2009 7:31 am

   I can’t believe this. You’ve respected her high standing of morals all this time and now you want to break that and ruin it?
   You’ve had a great relationship this long now, and now you want to ruin it with something so sacred and intimate and life-changing as having sex that only married people should do?
   You want to potentially ruin your relationship by doing the very thing that more than likely will bring another life into this world?
   I suggest you rethink what your mr johnson wants and be rational about this. You’ve got yourself a good woman here. Don’t go screwing it up (no pun intended).
   Go propose and wait until you’re married if you want that type of intimate relationship with her and want to have children with her, otherwise, break up and find a prostitute or a slut. Someone more readily to give it up.

9. Maybe This Will Help - July 6, 2009 7:33 am

   If she is very religious and wants to wait till marriage, thats something you have to accept and you have to ask yourself if you can cope with that. Otherwise, try to find out if there is anything in her past that made her so careful. But CAREFULLY!!!!!. If not, be honest and tell her that you have needs and you don´t want to hurt her but really want to take it that step further. I would prefere a man to be honest then pushing a problem around with him that could affect the relationship.

10. Maybe This Will Help - July 6, 2009 8:15 am

    just tell her…preferably during a makeout session so it doesnt seem to wierd to bring it up out of the blue..good luck man. oh dont forget to stretch those hammies..

11. Maybe This Will Help - July 6, 2009 8:55 am

    talk to her

12. Maybe This Will Help - July 6, 2009 9:32 am

    take her to a farm that has rabbits! get her in the barn with the rabbit cages, take the boy rabbit and throw it in the girl rabbits cage and watch how she reacts!

13. Maybe This Will Help - July 6, 2009 9:52 am

    talk to her

14. Maybe This Will Help - July 6, 2009 10:36 am

    ermmm…talk to her?

15. Maybe This Will Help - July 6, 2009 11:19 am

    Ask her if she’s ready for it, just give her a heads up saying “Whenever u’re ready to have sex let me know” or “Are you ready to take this relationship to another step?”

16. Maybe This Will Help - July 6, 2009 11:37 am

    You don’t or it’s over. She’s not ready. If you are then move on. It’s better that way.
    When it’s over everything changes, I’m not sure you’re ready for that. You just want sex. She is planning a family.

17. Maybe This Will Help - July 6, 2009 12:00 pm

    You can only talk to her about it but be careful the fact you haven’t done it yet might be because she still isn’t ready. Don’t push to hard, you may lose her.

18. Maybe This Will Help - July 6, 2009 12:57 pm

    never rush things in a relationship… you said its a whole year of commitment..what if you get into a marriage…that would be a whole life commitment..be patient..
    only do it when she is ready..it takes two to tango you know…
    if one person its not ready, the whole spark thing between you guys will just fade away…gone..
    a woman’s heart is very sacred… once you broke her heart, that would be the worst thing… trust will be gone for sure if you change your mind and ask her a second chance..
    guys and girls are very different…girls want to have good relationship and build stronger trust in each other and not rush things…
    what if you had sex, and somthing went wrong.. a baby comes along.. and you are stuck being a father..
    its up to you dude